Has it ever come across your mind how a couple got together?
Have you ever thought why love happens?
Well, everything happens for a reason, don’t they?
According to the Knapp model of relational development, relationship develops in 10 stages, 2 phases, namely the “coming together” phase from stages 1 to 5, and “coming apart” phase in the rest of the stages.
All the while we thought about how love happens and this and that, songs writers are actually already conveying the messages through love songs, giving us a hint on all there is about love and chemistry. Songs include all the stages from the beginning till the end, almost like a story, if you tried concluding a few songs that you know of.
Although relationship develops in stages as said, it doesn’t mean that when you fall in love, you are bound to follow the steps strictly.
Has love always been that easy? If so, why do some people so afraid to fall in love?
Nonetheless, despite the sweet moments and all that a couple had gone through, be it the thick and thin, there are still many divorcing cases occurring in the world today.
But why does still happen after they have their vows taken? Are they not taking the marriage seriously?
From stage 6 onwards according to Knapp model of relational development are known as the “coming apart” phase. No matter how much a couple had been through the tough times, it is no surprise that they can still end up splitting.
It actually starts to occur when a couple undergoes stage 6, named the differentiating stage. Conflict often occurs between them, even for a very small matter. They could fight over for almost anything. Then moving on, after a big fight, they tend to keep quiet and rather have a silent conversation. If this kind of conversation continues and no one bothers to make up, things will get worse. Slowly going through the motions of a relationship, they would somewhat try to avoid each other so as to also avoid awkward moments. Later on, they would take up the hint and start terminating the relationship. Soon, they will no longer care about what the other does and take no initiative to converse. That’s when most divorces take place, and both parties will then move on from the relationship and go their separate ways.
For instance, one of the high profile couples, Katie Price and Peter Andre is already starting the legal proceedings to end their marriage. Things may not be what they seem. Perhaps divorce is the only solution to keep them moving on.
Everyone thought both the parties could have stayed in the relationship, but it would not change the fact that “coming apart” phase has taken place.
Have you ever thought why love happens?
Well, everything happens for a reason, don’t they?
According to the Knapp model of relational development, relationship develops in 10 stages, 2 phases, namely the “coming together” phase from stages 1 to 5, and “coming apart” phase in the rest of the stages.
All the while we thought about how love happens and this and that, songs writers are actually already conveying the messages through love songs, giving us a hint on all there is about love and chemistry. Songs include all the stages from the beginning till the end, almost like a story, if you tried concluding a few songs that you know of.
Although relationship develops in stages as said, it doesn’t mean that when you fall in love, you are bound to follow the steps strictly.
Has love always been that easy? If so, why do some people so afraid to fall in love?
Nonetheless, despite the sweet moments and all that a couple had gone through, be it the thick and thin, there are still many divorcing cases occurring in the world today.
But why does still happen after they have their vows taken? Are they not taking the marriage seriously?
From stage 6 onwards according to Knapp model of relational development are known as the “coming apart” phase. No matter how much a couple had been through the tough times, it is no surprise that they can still end up splitting.
It actually starts to occur when a couple undergoes stage 6, named the differentiating stage. Conflict often occurs between them, even for a very small matter. They could fight over for almost anything. Then moving on, after a big fight, they tend to keep quiet and rather have a silent conversation. If this kind of conversation continues and no one bothers to make up, things will get worse. Slowly going through the motions of a relationship, they would somewhat try to avoid each other so as to also avoid awkward moments. Later on, they would take up the hint and start terminating the relationship. Soon, they will no longer care about what the other does and take no initiative to converse. That’s when most divorces take place, and both parties will then move on from the relationship and go their separate ways.
For instance, one of the high profile couples, Katie Price and Peter Andre is already starting the legal proceedings to end their marriage. Things may not be what they seem. Perhaps divorce is the only solution to keep them moving on.
Everyone thought both the parties could have stayed in the relationship, but it would not change the fact that “coming apart” phase has taken place.
Yes, a relationship will occur for a reason. It may be what the layman will term as love, but other factors are influential as well. One such factor that I'll like to mention is exchange: weighing the costs and benefits of the particular relationship. As the Equity Theory says, one is unlikely to stay in a relationship if he/she is giving more than the partner does, as he/she is under-benefitting from it.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, love is never easy, not at any stage. If people who are in a relationship find love easy, then i would think they are not serious and would end it quite easily without second thoughts.
ReplyDeleteNowadays vows and marriages are just plain, simple laws we like to follow. Couples in love want to be bound together by something strong such as the law, instead of their true feelings and commitments. Vows are said only in public, as if it's for the public's view.
So why marry when you can divorce? Why say your vows when your feelings change through time? Why wear a wedding ring when you can simply take it off?
Couples come apart when one or both stop caring about the relationship. But strongly fighting to stay together must require both parties to do so.
Love - can't live with it, can't live without it....
two is better than one. i agree with this statement. in my religion, it is God's choices n will for two loving couple to come together in marriage,n their soul n body become as one.and they had to commit to their marriage vows too..i think besides commitment to relationship, God has to be the priority in ur marriage life or love life..this is juz my belief.
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